Mental Health

Is it them, is it me, is it both of us. Negative people

I may only be 26years old but in my life, I have already learned that negative people are all around us, be it at school, work or within a friendship group. When it comes to a negative person you need to stop letting someone who does nothing for you, control your mind, feelings, and emotions.

Spotting a negative person

Negative people love to drag other people down in many ways, for example, discouraging people with dreams and vision, they do this so they spend more time looking for your faults than dealing with their own. You will also find a negative person may think they know everything, be very distrusting and bossy.

Many negative people actually suffer from anxiety, lack of confidence, worry and being oversensitive, because of this they find it upsetting to see other people winning at life whether it be at work, financially or in a relationship. From personal experience, I hate the phrase “banter” negative people use “banter” as a way to justify their negative comments, a lot of negative people are actually unaware of their negativity and the influence it has on other people and their feelings.

I’m not trying to say that all positive people don’t occasionally have negative thoughts, they do but they just don’t let those thoughts control them. There are always going to be negative people in our lives who will never notice the good or kind things we do but at the end of the day if you can stay positive and happy with yourself it shouldn’t matter.

Dealing with a negative person

Dealing with a negative person can be really hard and trying to understand them even harder. When it comes to a negative person you can try killing them with kindness, giving extras smiles and positive comments but it depends on how deep the person is in their own negativity and may end up draining all your energy.

Another way is to ignore their negative comments completely and don’t take it personally, a lot of negative people thrive off the reactions of others. If all else fails I would say reduce contact with the negative person free yourself from the discouragement, blame and drama and spend time with like-minded people who reflect the person you want to be.

Chose people who lift you up and make you smile, sometimes life is too short to spend trying to fix other people or spend time with people who generally suck the happiness out of you. Once you remove yourself from a negative person’s life you are then free to be yourself and being yourself is the best way to live.

Personal experience

I suffer from depression and chronic anxiety and have done for many years. I am currently on anti-depressants but anyone who has ever suffered from these symptoms knows it can be hard to think positive at times even when on medication.

The way I deal with my negative thoughts is to try and focus on the good and always look for ways to better myself. Advice for anyone who thinks they may have a negative attitude only you can help yourself, try finding the reasons for your negativity and make positive life changes and remember to smile and have fun.


Giving Up Smoking & Tracking Results with my FitBit

I started smoking when I was 13 years old (awful I know!) and I have never been a light or social smoker, it’s all or nothing with me! On average I would say I was smoking 20+ roll-up cigarettes a day, having my first cigarette as early as 6.30am. I did, however, give up for over a year in 2012 due to being pregnant with my son!

I was so proud when I gave up straight away and never thought I would start smoking again, but at this time everyone else around me was still smoking and I found the temptation too great after I had had my son and started smoking again. I have recently given up again and this time it’s for good, as ever since I started smoking again after having had given up I regretted it!

This time I decided to use the help of a vape, the one I chose was the Wismec Reuleaux RX75. I purchased this vape from Amazon and would say it’s reasonably priced. I actually found using this vape made it very easy to quit. The only problem I had was finding the right juice for it. All I would say to anyone using a vape for the first time is try as many juices you can, different flavours and brands!


To start off with I found all the juices I was using were burning my throat, I later discovered that the higher the nicotine content the harsher it is on your throat, so I now use juices with a 3mg content. Since using my vape everyone seemed to love telling me horror stories about them being worse for you than smoking and blowing up in people’s faces. After doing some research I found an article on Cancer Research Uk stating “E-cigarettes safer than smoking says long-term study

I have also discovered yes some people’s vapes have blown up but I am to believe the only vapes to do this are ones that have been modified in some way by the user and vapes are safe to use as long as the user manual is followed. I do like using my vape at the moment but eventually, I want to not use anything at all and put all my focus into improving my health.

How I Use My FitBit to Track Health Improvements After Giving Up Smoking

I am also a Fitbit user I currently am wearing the Fitbit charge 2 and since giving up smoking over a month ago I have noticed a few changes with my Fitbit results. The first results I noticed had changed was my resting bpm (resting heart beats per minute) I was averaging 71bpm and after only 2 weeks of giving up, it lowered to an average of 56bpm.


Also with the Fitbit charge 2, it gives you a cardio fitness level and score. Before giving up smoking my score was 40.8 that put me at an average cardio fitness level for my age, however since giving up smoking my score is now 42-46 which puts me in a good to very good cardio fitness level.

Even if I didn’t have the Fitbit results telling me I’m getting healthier I can 100% feel it. My breathing is better, my smell is better and I’m sure my taste buds are changing i.e. regaining full functioning taste buds. I am so happy I made the decision to give up for good and wish anyone trying to give up smoking the best of luck.